tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post2593744632085051491..comments2023-10-25T05:04:57.421-05:00Comments on Queen of the Clan: Autism and Law EnforcementDanyelle Fergusonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00006907198681924095noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-78614289710590694782009-04-16T23:28:00.000-05:002009-04-16T23:28:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family,...I'm so sorry this happened to you and your family, Danyelle. For some reason, we have always been blessed with Daniel--even though he has gone over and eaten a stranger's birthday cake at a pizza place before, and he has run off in his underwear and been returned to me by the UPS man, and we have had the police out to our house when he wandered off right after we moved into our house. In all of these stressful situations I was surprised by the understanding of the strangers involved. It always pains me to hear of others having such trouble with their children in public and I just wish that more people were willing to give our kids the benefit of the doubt and to treat us and them with respect and understanding. I've experienced that time and time again, and I so wish that for everyone else who cares for a special child.Jennahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15898707137933717452noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-5372531240200676392009-04-15T21:37:00.000-05:002009-04-15T21:37:00.000-05:00Appalling. Absolutely appalling. That woman shou...Appalling. Absolutely appalling. That woman should have her kids taken away from her! I am so sorry you had to go through that.themeese2https://www.blogger.com/profile/13451039693050934207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-23868476004935215472009-04-14T20:18:00.000-05:002009-04-14T20:18:00.000-05:00Oh Hon, what a horrible ordeal for all of you. Th...Oh Hon, what a horrible ordeal for all of you. That woman was a monster and should not have been able to adopt more what with the anger issues she had. It does not matter what she thought - she should never had laid a hand on your child. Period! Good for your husband for coming to help, quickly and bringing help. Hopefully this will make the woman stop and think when her temper starts to rise next time.<br /><br />Love the idea of the law enforcement training for this. Thank you for the information. It is always helpful and appreciated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-8861037529190291702009-04-14T13:18:00.000-05:002009-04-14T13:18:00.000-05:00Wow, what an ordeal. I'm so sorry you had to go th...Wow, what an ordeal. I'm so sorry you had to go through that Danyelle.<br /><br />My oldest son, Sam, had autism though we didn't know it at the time. Originally he was dx with being on the autistic spectrum, but he was also dx with reactive attachment disorder and they said you couldn't be autistic and RAD at the same time.<br /><br />Anyway, we were investigated by DCFS because Sam was extremely violent and someone saw us trying to contain his outburst and it looked like we were abusing him. Thankfully, we were able to prove the truth and the social worker assigned to our case was thorough in doing his job and found us to be truthful and parents only doing our best in an extremely difficult situation.<br /><br />But it's always my fear. Even now with Sam living in another state, with another family, I fear for him and the trouble he could unwittingly get himself into. <br /><br />Anyway. Just ... hugs, I guess. I feel your pain!ali crosshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13023009704454279645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-47329010454081374212009-04-14T07:53:00.000-05:002009-04-14T07:53:00.000-05:00Gaynell - Wow. I would have been totally freaked o...Gaynell - Wow. I would have been totally freaked out. I worry about Isaac wandering off and not being able to communicate well enough who he is, his address, parents, etc. Even though I know he knows most of that information, he could be too upset to relay it. <br /><br />We went on vacation once to Branson and decided to go to church while we were there. Isaac was in Sunbeams at the time. My hubby and I talked to the primary presidency about his autism and John was going to stay with Isaac for all of primary. About the last ten minutes of RS, I started to feel like I really needed to go check on Isaac. But I thought - no, John's with him. He's fine. By the time the closing prayer was said, I was jumping out of my seat the urge was so strong. I got to his class to discover that the teacher had let the kids out five minutes early with no adult supervision - and John wasn't with Isaac. They had sent him to priesthood because Isaac was doing so well. John specifically told the teacher to keep Isaac in the classroom until he arrived to pick him up. But the teacher let him go. We searched all over the building and could not find him anywhere. We finally found him in someone else's VAN! Inside the VAN! I cried all day. What if that person would have kidnapped him? Or hurt him? Or set him loose not knowing he had no idea where to go or what to do? I decided that day that it was the last time we were going to church at an unfamiliar church building when we were on vacation. <br /><br />Raising a child with special needs is very stressful. I wish more people understood, were aware, and responsible when working with our kids.Danyelle Fergusonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006907198681924095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-82321462888559814372009-04-13T15:40:00.000-05:002009-04-13T15:40:00.000-05:00Oh wow...we haven't had any issues at parks, but m...Oh wow...we haven't had any issues at parks, but my son picked all my neighbors flowers one day and we had to put them all back. I've often wondered if my son was going to land us in trouble. When we first moved here and didn't have the double locks on the windows, he ran down the street watching the water in the gutter. An older man brought him back, all upset about this kid going to get run over by a car. sigh.<BR/>At least he cared enough to bring him home...<BR/>thanks for sharing, and I am so impressed by how you have handled your special childrenG. Parkerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06443705669744932771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-60270218983635909392009-04-13T13:15:00.000-05:002009-04-13T13:15:00.000-05:00What a scary park story. Sorry you had to go throu...What a scary park story. Sorry you had to go through that. Thanks for sharing the video. It's so important to get that kind of info out there.Marcia Mickelsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04571348788192273191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-11496575653888598712009-04-13T09:38:00.000-05:002009-04-13T09:38:00.000-05:00Casdok - Welcome to the QOTC blog! My sister is an...Casdok - Welcome to the QOTC blog! My sister is an officer in Pennsylvania, and they have a similar program there, too. I'm glad they have programs in the UK as well.<BR/><BR/>Carolyn, Cindy, & Kellie - Life certainly sends us interesting experiences to help us grow and become strong. Still, it's something I worry and think about anytime we go on a family outing or vacation. The only place I really feel comfortable is other special needs events.Danyelle Fergusonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00006907198681924095noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-83692192503818225192009-04-13T07:57:00.000-05:002009-04-13T07:57:00.000-05:00Danyelle, you are so strong and amazing. I can't ...Danyelle, you are so strong and amazing. I can't believe the judge basically let the woman go without anything.Kelliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01078158663459610289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-25144875662201124042009-04-13T06:57:00.000-05:002009-04-13T06:57:00.000-05:00I'm so sorry that happened. Some times people are ...I'm so sorry that happened. Some times people are just plain wacked in the head! Hopefully a woman with those kinds of anger issues will not be adopting more children.Cindy Beck, authorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16915624341543651886noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-26300923186329551502009-04-13T06:25:00.000-05:002009-04-13T06:25:00.000-05:00Wow, what a terrifying story. We've had one incide...Wow, what a terrifying story. We've had one incident with neighbors who didn't understand and it made me ill for weeks afterward...it was nowhere near as gut-wrenching as this story.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad you shared it though. It' is important to be aware of the dangers.<BR/><BR/>You did the right thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3265041595520726324.post-177540308967080812009-04-13T03:27:00.000-05:002009-04-13T03:27:00.000-05:00So sorry to read this. But a very important topic ...So sorry to read this. But a very important topic to share.I have the same fears as you because of things that have happened to my son.<BR/>Here in the UK we have a similar scheme with our Police.Casdokhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03497897393162856190noreply@blogger.com